After a while, oral sex is going to get boring. None of us are going to deny that happens because we\\\'ve all felt it, but if you\\\'re clever when it comes to your oral copulations, you\\\'ll never get bored.

The trick, chilllll, is to not stick with one type of oral sex or a single method of doing it all the time.

Another key thing that you need to do is transform your regular oral sex routine into something which is laden with much more intimacy. Now I know that all the cougars and the cubs who are reading this right now might be asking why, or at least the cubs might.

Intimacy simply is about how close you are to someone and there have been studies which have stated that being closer to someone or having a certain level of closeness makes you more likely to enjoy your sex life with them. Our members have also said that intimacy or certain levels of it make the sex feel more satisfying and intense.

In short, we could all do with a little more intimacy in our lives, but it\\\'s easy to get distracted from that intimacy. Practice makes perfect though and you can make intimacy as natural as breathing by following these steps.

Give your cougar or cub all of your attention. If you want to make the other feel perfect then you\\\'re going to want to spend some time on them. The intimacy that you feel can\\\'t exactly be achieved in a quickie so take care of your cougar or cub before you even get to the sexy part. Maybe get them a glass of wine and rub their feet or even just sit down beside them so you two can cuddle and talk about your days.

You don\\\'t want to make oral sex into a chore for either of you. When you\\\'re not in the mood, you\\\'re not in the mood and your cub will understand. The first step to having good intimacy is not to force if you\\\'re not feeling it because the reluctance that you\\\'re feeling will ki,, the mood for your cougar or cub as well. Wait until you\\\'re really feeling like having oral sex and don\\\'t worry about being honest about it. If they don\\\'t understand then maybe they\\\'re not someone you should be with anyway.

Don\\\'t pull away the instant they cum. There\\\'s something incredible about keeping that moment going. When you\\\'re done with sex, don\\\'t roll away right away, just stay like that and let the feeling go on. You want to give them the complete oral sex experience so even if you haven\\\'t reached your own orgasm, just stay with them and let them enjoy their afterglow. You\\\'re going to get your turn to cum like nobody\\\'s business, but there\\\'s no need to hurry so just slow things down a little.

Don\\\'t sixty nine all the time. We love having 69. Don\\\'t get us wrong since pleasuring each other at the same time is a wonderful thing, but you\\\'re going to want to take turns so you can focus on what you\\\'re going to be doing. Your cougar or cub will get a chance to relax and enjoy themselves that much more and this is going to send their pleasure through the roof. Plus, if you\\\'re not getting serviced yourself you\\\'ll be able to do a better job of picking up any signals that they might be giving.

It\\\'s all in your eyes, baby. Eye contact is something which is potent and mesmerizing as well as a perfect way to show your desire for someone else. Show your cougar or cub that you\\\'re paying attention by looking right up at them. Then they\\\'ll know that you are thinking only about them.

Evolutionary psychology is a can of worms to begin with. If you want to find a particularly violent online argument, search out two people -- one of whom believes mental and behavioral differences between men and women are entirely a social construct, and the other of whom thinks it's possible that men exhibit more big-picture thinking (yet have no idea what color the bedspread is) because those who could accurately scan the horizon for game survived to pass down that gene along with women who observe small details like whether a mushroom is poisonous or whether a baby is sick and develop communication ski... to shar,,,e that information.

That's just an example. But last month, the folks at The Journal of Evolutionary Psychology determined that, although the female orgasm doesn't get a woman to lie there and happily retain sperm at the optimum moment (just one of the fascinating speculations we recall from Desmond Morris' 1967 The Naked Ape, along with a theory that large human breasts and pigmented lip tissue mimic the back side of a lady, thereby encouraging face-to-face sex and less promiscuity), men whose relationships are threatened by "sperm competition" (a.k.a. Sancho) perform more cunnilingus. Oh, and they do it right. Well. Successfully. Whatever.

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The authors (Todd K. Shackelford, Michael N. Pham, Yael Sela, and Lisa L. M. Welling) did acknowledge the limitations of the research (although, oddly, not their criteria for whether a man is at greater risk of competition-induced cuckoldry, which include an attractive partner and/or absence from her) and that alternative hypotheses might explain why heterosexual couples engage in this pointless behavior.

They were really shooting for (so to speak) evidence to support the sperm-retention-during-orgasm thing, so it's not as though the scientists really had no idea why not-directly-procreative sexytime is fun; they were just wondering about something else and are probably a little bummed that they were wrong.

Also probably spending too much time at the lab, they or their significant others may be telling themselves right about now. Though the two male and two female researchers all work together at the same Michigan university, so who knows, really?

"The results of the current study are not consistent with the hypothesis that cunnilingus is designed to promote sperm retention. Men at greater recurrent risk of sperm competition are more likely to perform cunnilingus on their partner until she achieves orgasm; however, ejaculation usually does not occur in the brief time period during which
orgasm might function to retain sperm.
Female orgasm may be designed to increase relationship satisfaction (Pair-Bond Hypothesis), to encourage subsequent copulations (Promoting Future Copulations Hypothesis), to retain preferentially the sperm of men with higher genetic quality (Sire Choice Hypothesis), to promote fertilization (for a critical review, see Levin, 2011), or female orgasm may be a non-functional byproduct of male orgasm (reviewed in Puts, Dawood, and Welling, 2012). The results of the current research provide support for the Pair-Bond Hypothesis and the Promotion of Future Copulations Hypothesis. The Pair-Bond Hypothesis states that female orgasm functions to strengthen the emotional bond between partners, and the Promoting Future Copulations Hypothesis states that female orgasm functions to reward sexual behaviors, thereby promoting future sexual encounters with a particular man. These two hypotheses are consistent with the broader hypothesis that men promote their partner's orgasm to minimize the risk of her infidelity because women who experience stronger feelings of intimacy and who are more satisfied with their partner are less likely to commit infidelity (Buss and Shackelford, 1997). However, one hypothesis alone may not best explain the function of female orgasm (e.g., McKibbin et al., 2010, who documented that men's risk of sperm competition moderates the association between men's relationship satisfaction and their interest in their partner's orgasm). Given the ongoing debate regarding the function of female orgasm (reviewed in Puts et al., 2012), future research should continue to investigate the several proposed functions of female orgasm and, in particular, should attempt to replicate the research of Baker and Bellis (1993b), which relied on a relatively small sample to document that female orgasm may increase sperm retention. "

Why on earth would anyone perform oral sex? Particularly on a woman?!? While these questions seem silly to some of us (I mean, it's obviously because the people involved find it totally hot, right?), they aren't to evolutionary biologists. This is because many of our behaviors and choices that seem completely voluntary are actually hard-wired, and have been naturally selected over millennia because they help us have more babies. However, it isn't necessarily obvious which behaviors have been selected for until one starts testing different hypotheses. Here, scientists are testing the idea that performing oral sex on women is evolutionarily beneficial because it helps the sperm get and remain inside the uterus. They sampled heterosexual men from the United States and Germany, the majority of whom lived with their partners, and asked them details about their sex lives and relationships.


Is cunnilingus-assisted orgasm a male sperm-retention strategy?

"We secured data from 243 men in committed, sexual, heterosexual relationships to test the sperm retention hypothesis of oral sex. We predicted that, among men who perform cunnilingus on their partner, those at greater risk of sperm competition are more likely to perform cunnilingus until their partner achieves orgasm (Prediction 1), and that, among men who ejaculate during penile-vaginal intercourse and whose partner experiences a cunnilingus-assisted orgasm, ejaculation will occur during the brief period in which female orgasm might function to retain sperm (Prediction 2). The results support Prediction 1 but not Prediction 2. We discuss limitations of the current research and discuss how these results may be more consistent with alternative hypotheses regarding female orgasm and oral sex."

from a voyeur's perspective she seemed to be completely confident in her body. She only provided us with glimpses of her face and a number of brief comments to accompany her photos, but I sense that her beauty was not limited to her amazing body. (Update: Her Flickr blog has reappeared. I have been posting her pics. Search for the tag: Jennifer O'Dell.) I'm dedicating this blog to my nameless co-worker (no one will ever match those memories) and Jennifer O'Dell (an unfulfilled fantasy that has no equal). DISCLAIMER: All pictures here are found on the web (or have been freely submitted) and assumed to be in the public domain. If you see one of yours and want it taken down please contact me via the "Ask Me Anything" link; provide me the date and a description of the photo that you want me to remove.



from a voyeur's perspective she seemed to be completely confident in her body. She only provided us with glimpses of her face and a number of brief comments to accompany her photos, but I sense that her beauty was not limited to her amazing body. (Update: Her Flickr blog has reappeared. I have been posting her pics. Search for the tag: Jennifer O'Dell.) I'm dedicating this blog to my nameless co-worker (no one will ever match those memories) and Jennifer O'Dell (an unfulfilled fantasy that has no equal). DISCLAIMER: All pictures here are found on the web (or have been freely submitted) and assumed to be in the public domain. If you see one of yours and want it taken down please contact me via the "Ask Me Anything" link; provide me the date and a description of the photo that you want me to remove."


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Get some high quality lube - Water based lube is the best as it can be used with condoms also. You can still make a woman orgasm without lube, but it's not recommended.

Buy spare sheets - If she's a "gusher" then you're going to be going through a lot of sheets dude.

Spruce up your place - Make sure your apartment is presentable, clean and comfortable. If she's not comfortable, then you'll have a hard time making her squirt.

Take your time - It's not a race, most girls will take around 20 to 30 minutes before you can make them squirt. However if you see the girl more than once and she's very comfortable sexually around you, it will be seconds to a few minutes.

So that's how to make women squirt on demand... even though they are the basics they still work wonders. If you want to get more advanced with orgasms I suggest you watch this video.

Squirting orgasms are seriously easy when you get the first one down, because you're way more confident the next time.

Get some high quality lube - Water based lube is the best as it can be used with condoms also. You can still make a woman orgasm without lube, but it's not recommended.

Buy spare sheets - If she's a "gusher" then you're going to be going through a lot of sheets dude.

Spruce up your place - Make sure your apartment is presentable, clean and comfortable. If she's not comfortable, then you'll have a hard time making her squirt.

Take your time - It's not a race, most girls will take around 20 to 30 minutes before you can make them squirt. However if you see the girl more than once and she's very comfortable sexually around you, it will be seconds to a few minutes.

So that's how to make women squirt on demand... even though they are the basics they still work wonders. If you want to get more advanced with orgasms I suggest you watch this video.

Squirting orgasms are seriously easy when you get the first one down, because you're way more confident the next time.

Technique 1: Stroking

Get warmed up with this technique.

Ok so the first the first technique is called "stroking". To do this, take your index finger or middle finger... place it inside the vagina and go up, so you are touching the front wall.

Now with your finger inside and touching the G-spot, begin stroking backwards and forwards, with a "come here" motion as if you're stroking it. Don't be too gentle, you need to be firm.

Start with shorter slower strokes when you first enter, but build up momentum and speed up after a few minutes. Once she's really getting into it, try two fingers (your index and middle fingers) and use the same stroking motion.

Never use 2 fingers right away, always begin with 1.
Technique 2: Overdrive

Kick it into overdrive and make her go crazy!

Right then... this is where the magic happens. Now that you've been stimulating the G-spot and stroking it for 10 to 15 minutes. You should feel it ballooning inside and she should be groaning with pleasure.

This is the point where you want to take things into "overdrive". For this you will need to be right beside her (like on your knees if you're on the bed" and use both your middle finger and ring finger to penetrate the same spot.

Now with your fingers inside, you need to rest the palm of your hand on the clitorous, almost cupping it. Once you're in position, begin slowly stroking, whilst speeding up and then start to pull your hand up and down so you stimulate the clit at the same time.

Speed up some more and be a lot firmer as you're speeding up...

...Speed up EVEN more.... now some more.... and finally go as fast as you can until she climaxes (squirts) all over the bed.

Now not all women will squirt, but a lot will. I've only had one girl who couldn't squirt and I did everything correctly. You should feel the vaginal wall tighten and put pressure on your fingers, this means you've done the job well.

Boom! You're all done!

By now your hands... the bed and her vagina should be covered in her love juice. Don't worry it's not pee, like some guys think. It's ejaculate fluid which comes out of the urethra, not the vagina.

The female ejaculation fluid comes from the skene's gland and has a sweet taste to it (due to the glucose contents).

This is the good stuff, grab a coffee and take note big man:
Lube up first

To intensify the pleasure, you should use a water based lube when using finger based foreplay which is what you will be doing here to make her squirt.

A great natural lubricant is gra.. seed oil, which is also awesome for massaging as well as G-spot stimulation with the fingers.
Get your hands ready

Remember that the vagina is a very sensitive area for a woman, so you must look after your hands... cut your nails, moisturise and keep them clean so they are soft and smooth.

I\'d even recommend getting a manicure.. yes I know it\'s not manly, but it will make sure your hands are ready for her.
Locate the G-spot

The big \"G\" is a part of the urethral sponge and is located between 1 and 2 inches (2 knuckles) inside the vagina, along the front wall, which is the top if the girl was laying on her back basically.

As a woman becomes a lot more aroused, you should feel the G-spot swell up and become more pronounced, this is a GOOD sign that she\'s ready to be penetrated... but we want to save that for later as the aim here is to make her squirt.

Men can only have one type of orgasm (sucks I know) but women can actually have two...
Clitoral orgasm

Most common among women, direct stimulation of the clitoris and happens during masturbation. You can also give them a clitoral orgasm orally, if you know what you're doing.

Quick tip: Did you know that women have as many nerve endings in their clitorus as men do in their penis? Crazy right? Now you get why it's SO sensitive for women during foreplay and sex.

Also most women only really experience one clitoral orgasm, because the clit can become VERY sensitive and sometimes even sore.
Vaginal orgasm

Comes from the inside of the vagina from either the G-spot or the deep spot. This is the kind of female orgasm that can infuse their entire body, making them feel numb and shiver with excitement uncontrollably.

It's also possible to have multiple vaginal orgasms, so you can (if done right) make her cum more than once... heck more than 3 or more times during sex, which will give her an overwhelming sensation... like a constant wave of pleasure all over her body.

Quick note: Did you know that only 20% of women have experienced a vagnial orgasm? That means over 80% of women haven't experienced one and most likely don't even know what the hell it is... madness!

...And a staggering 29% of women have NEVER had an orgasm!

Yo dude.

Take a look at this raunchy text I received from a girl late last night which I received an hour after she left my place...

"Hey sexy! That was incredible!! I've never had an orgasm like that before... sorry for the bed sheets ;) I'll buy you some new ones xxx"

Cool right? I get similar messages from girls like that all the time

so listen up young man...

Because I'm about to teach you something that very few men know how to do correctly (to be honest I wasn't doing it right either until my buddy showed me).

I'm going to show you exactly how to make women squirt... using only one hand... some lube and an open minded frisky woman.

Warning: If the girl doesn't trust you or you haven't built enough comfort... she WILL NOT orgasm, let alone squirt. So you need to make sure she's really into you before attempting this stuff.

You're going to learn what squirting orgasms are, the different types of orgasms women can have and most importantly how to make a woman squirt her love juice all over the bed.

Ready? This is going to get messy...

Different types of orgasms a woman can have

Men can only have one type of orgasm (sucks I know) but women can actually have two...
Clitoral orgasm

Most common among women, direct stimulation of the clitoris and happens during masturbation. You can also give them a clitoral orgasm orally, if you know what you're doing.

Quick tip: Did you know that women have as many nerve endings in their clitorus as men do in their penis? Crazy right? Now you get why it's SO sensitive for women during foreplay and sex.

Also most women only really experience one clitoral orgasm, because the clit can become VERY sensitive and sometimes even sore.